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A Tribute to My Mom on “Our” Birthday!

Since my Mother always reminds me today is “OUR” birthday, I thought I would take a moment to pay tribute to …the woman, the legend…the original “Momager”!
I will say, that at 41, I can still barely take care of myself. I am still learning how to juggle a career and having a domestic life!
At 41 Diane Gibson had 4 kids… Karen, the eldest, was in college already!
Add to that me being a teenager and about to embark on what would be an epic and manic time!
When she was roughly about 4 years younger than I am now, Diane – with no college education – had worked her way up from secretary to office manager for hugely successful NYC doctors. Think “Working Girl”! What she didn’t know, she fibbed about and bluffed her way ’til she learned the actual skills required …which she always did! As Tony Robbins says… “It’s never a lack of resources, but a lack of resourcefulness”, a lesson I learned watching both my parents somehow put food on the table, juggle jobs, get all of their kids to their lessons of varying kinds, participate in our school lives, social lives, you name it….all with basically no money and never leaving us in the hands of babysitters. I still don’t know quite how they did that!

When I was 12 years old, my Mom used the office Fed Ex supplies to get a cassette recording of a song I wrote on a Casio synthesizer called “I Come From America” in by the deadline (I was always a bit “last minute”!) … Well? It paid off. I won first prize which was $1000 and a chance to hear my song played on WOR Radio! Little did she know, she created a monster! I was already obsessed with the radio but, the thrill I got from hearing MY original song on the radio…well, that was the be all end all for me.

After watching me line up tape recorders on the ironing board in my attempt at “Multi track recording” my Mom bravely called an Uncle of mine in Vineland NJ and drove 3 hours to plead with him for a $10,000 loan to help me build a recording studio in the garage. He agreed and a producer was born!!! I will always be eternally grateful to Uncle Joe and to my Mother for having the guts to put herself on the line for me in this way. She did not just “believe” in me… she “KNEW” what I was capable of if given the tools.

Throughout the years, Diane educated herself in the ways of Publishing and Record deals and would sit at conference tables full of record execs in suits who were smuggly thinking “Oh, it’s the Mom…we can surely pull a fast one on her!”  Well, they couldn’t! She knew how hard I was working…to the point of panic attacks and fatigue…and by God, she was going to ensure that I was compensated as fairly as any other artist. She fought for my right to be able to record my original songs and produce or co produce and arrange… She backed me up when no one else would. This is not wasted on me to this day. I heard Tiffany say in concert just last month that she too was writing music at the time but she did not have people by her side empowering and encouraging her. She has now turned into a wonderful writer… Much harder without the support. Everyone should have a “Diane Gibson” in their corner! Most do not.

Now, as a woman, my Mom’s wish for me to know my own business should she get “hit by a bus” can sometimes backfire! It must be terribly difficult to wake up one day and realize that roles have changed and there is not the same kind of “protection” required of her. I am my own woman. With that said, last month when I was sick and freaking out because I was performing on GMA and not feeling my best… I knew I could look at her and I knew she knew what I was going through. Only she, in all the people in my life have been there from day one. From the church talent show to Madison Square Garden and everything in between. Only a mother would deal with ups and downs and roller coasters and musical tides changing and mood swings and on and on and on….    When people have jumped ship because the chips were not up…. she remained.

Very recently I was sitting on a career decision… She said “I support whatever you do. It makes no difference to me if you ever do a “hit” anything again. I just want YOU to be happy”. How many agents or managers would say that? I am lucky…both my agent and “Momager” would. They care about me, the human being…not just a paycheck.

Mama? It ain’t always easy, but know that I love you with all my heart and you gave birth to me 41 years ago today, so I wanted to celebrate “our” day and celebrate you…who never gets to take a bow.

BRAVO…. The wind beneath my wings!

Love, Your Daughter, Client, and Friend…..   DEBORAH

Photos of my mother and I at the Grammys 1988 and now

 

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26 responses

  1. Sock Puppet

    Diane looks great, much like her daughter Deborah herself.

    August 31, 2011 at 1:37 pm

  2. Todd

    Diane still looks amazing as well!! Thanks Diane for bringing up such a gift to the musical world and to Deborah- Happy Birthday!!

    August 31, 2011 at 1:59 pm

  3. Happy bday and omg you guys look like sisters! Gorgeous :)

    August 31, 2011 at 2:04 pm

  4. Brandon

    What a beautiful blog. You guys are BOTH very lucky to have each other and such an amazing relationship!

    August 31, 2011 at 2:13 pm

  5. Jason

    What beautiful words and what an amazing relationship. It bought a tear to my eye and a smile to my face.

    August 31, 2011 at 2:28 pm

  6. chris

    Amazing text Deborah, hmmm career decision thats very intriguing, does it have anything to do with you rejecting an offer from a major record company and doing your new album on your own instead?

    August 31, 2011 at 2:41 pm

  7. Luposuave

    Well done Deborah. You are a true class act. There is no substitution for a mother. Happy 41st Birthday to you and Lady Di

    Luposuave

    August 31, 2011 at 2:54 pm

  8. Jere

    I have heard of young stars where it is the parents who end up messing things up and not only destroy a career but also a family. Nice to see that your relationship with your mom is the opposite.
    Glad you have a mom after all these years who not only stayed true to you but encouraged you to stay true to yourself

    August 31, 2011 at 2:54 pm

  9. atomichoney

    Awesome. Have a super-fantabulous birthday, and thank you for sharing.

    August 31, 2011 at 3:07 pm

  10. What a class act! Happy Birthday!

    These rainbow pictures are my gift to you: http://tinyurl.com/43rv6ln

    I hope they brighten your day!

    August 31, 2011 at 3:47 pm

  11. Billy

    Such a great testimony to the relationship you two have. And such humility to talk sweetly about your mom on YOUR day. You’re the best!

    August 31, 2011 at 4:09 pm

  12. Bill

    Very nice Deborah. Happy Birthday to both of you.

    August 31, 2011 at 4:17 pm

  13. pattyg

    well done. Happy Birthday to you both. One for receiving life and one for birthing a life.

    August 31, 2011 at 4:36 pm

  14. DGfan

    Deb, you sure are a great daughter, client, and friend to someone who definitely sounds like and is a great mother, manager, and friend. You’re best interests have been her life’s work since day one, “hit”, “hot”, “miss”, or “not”. Happy Birthday Deborah, and I bow to the woman who not only gave life to Deborah, but also continues to grace us with Deborah! – DGfan

    August 31, 2011 at 4:59 pm

  15. Kevin Sheffield

    Thank you for filling in details about how you started and where you’ve been. You just satisfied my curiosity. I truly am fascinated by your life and your talents. You and your mother and uncle Joe are amazing people.

    August 31, 2011 at 5:10 pm

  16. Good evening, Deborah! Hope you are enjoying a special birthday. Hope you and Diane and your local family/friends are all doing OK post-Irene.

    If I may indulge, I would love to share my Diane moment. Back in 1995 right after Think With Your Heart came out you did an instore at the Borders (so sad to see it go) in Peabody, MA. Thanks to Prodigy (remember that early online service?) I gave a ride to an out-of-state fan and connected for the first time in person with a young girl at the event; both of whom I met through this new medium. After your performance, and patiently waiting in line, I received an autograph with you and a chance to speak with you for a couple of minutes.

    But first, I had to give something to Diane. Lots of fans give you gifts when you tour, but what about your mom? So I presented her something I put a lot of care into. “What is this?”, she asked.

    I just smiled and said “My resume!”

    Diane just kind of nodded and gave you and me this kind of look that said “OK, I have heard about people like you!”

    I doubt either of you remember, but would like to take this opportunity to state that I am still available for an interview if either of you need an assistant in Team Deborah!

    Sincerely,

    Douglas Trapasso

    August 31, 2011 at 5:30 pm

  17. Your Mom certainly sounds like a fighter.

    Hey, Deb, Happy birthday!
    All RISE for Deb. Grease is still the WORD. Whatever.

    -Love Marc

    August 31, 2011 at 6:20 pm

  18. Henry Schwartzman

    I just want to wish you a happy birthday.

    August 31, 2011 at 6:36 pm

  19. siri

    Awwww…..that’s so sweet!!! Happy Birthday Deborah! I hope a have a great one!

    August 31, 2011 at 7:36 pm

  20. I was really touch with deb’s story. Iam happy that she have a supported family that was there for her. We are really have struggling moments in life. When i was 7 years old i wanted to have a piano lessons but my mom refuses ’cause we have no funds for that. I always talk ideas in music at that age but no one cares or listen. I really bet that i was born in the philippines at that 80’s time has no appreciation with kids. Lucky that there are contests now that recognizes talents. I always went to station then i need someone that will help to tune my song writings but nothing happened. I really feel that i was in a loss. I really browse artist that can really relate whats behind of there songs and who writes it. I usually hearing ‘shake your love’ before but i don’t bother ’cause i like ‘shake body dancer’ then i saw deb a couple of times on tv about her ‘foolish beat’ video and i thought she was safire ’cause due of similarity of the video ‘Thinking of you’. I knew deb but i wasn’t convince that part of her songs. In 1989 “Electric Youth” came a hit i said wow what a boom! love the song it was a number 1 in the philippines at radio stations. I have no money to buy for the album so i buy 45 RPM records as single with ‘we could be together’ campfire. Iam saving up money to buy that album till electric youth was out of stocks and they recommend me ‘out of the blue’ wow i love the album and songs. I was reading who writes music then the name was Deborah Gibson. I said who is she? Went to magazine station and look for Debbie Gibson bio. Then it came that her real name was Deborah Ann Gibson wow i said to myself this is the artist that will inspires me. I bought electric youth i supported Deb in the way buying her music now. I really thank for the power of the internet now ’cause i still have deb’s album and buy online. Eventhough record bars here don’t have it but iam happy that i have an album to present. But this way too long… I just share my moment.

    August 31, 2011 at 8:20 pm

  21. THANK- YOU GOD FOR BLESSING DEB WITH A GREAT MOTHER !!!!!
    THANK- YOU GOD FOR BLESSING DIANA WITH A GREAT DAUGHTER !!!!!
    HAPPY 41 ST BIRTHDAY , DEB!!!!!
    IT’S VERY SWEET TO SAY KIND THINGS ABOUT YOUR MOTHER,DEB.
    MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR MOTHER, TOO.

    August 31, 2011 at 11:55 pm

  22. Wishing a very, VERY Happy Birthday!!!
    Your Mom rocks…just like you. :-)
    Best wishes, and continued success!!!

    God Bless,
    Erik B.

    (P.S. Did I mention you ROCK? Lol) ;-)

    September 1, 2011 at 1:08 am

  23. Russel

    Hi Deborah,

    Hope you had a great birthday, surrounded by the people that you love, and plenty of cake!

    This tribute to your mum was very moving, you must love her very much. They do say that you can choose your friends, but not your family. I think you have the best of both worlds in both aspects.

    Anyway, hope you are having a great day today, and stay safe.

    Russel, UK

    September 1, 2011 at 1:02 pm

  24. Happy Belated Birthday Miss Gibson and Mrs Gibson!! May you both stay healthy and young forever! XOXO

    September 1, 2011 at 5:58 pm

  25. JOSIP MIKHAIL B. FEROLIN

    HELLO! DEBORAH ANN, ARE YOU AND YOUR FRIEND TIFFANY GOING TO PUT OUT AN 80’S COVER ALBUM ?. BELATED HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

    GOD BLESS YOU ALWAYS!!!!!!

    September 1, 2011 at 6:05 pm

  26. what a great story of you and your mom. How many moms can say they went to the grammy’s with their daughter? lol…very very cool

    February 13, 2013 at 10:13 am

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